T&C

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I know it's been awhile, and for good reason!
No ones been really  missing me and it's alright lol i'm not heartbroken.
I'm thinking since I love to read so much and Ive seen a lot of people making their blogs into book reviews, i thought "why not" so maybe my next blog will be book reviews about books that I have read so far.
Anyways, I've been writing my own "book" it's not quite finished but I'd love it if you guys stopped by my NEW blog and read it(:

http://mollyschapters.blogspot.com

I'll expalin more in the blog!

What are you waiting for? Go. Go. GO! :D

Coming home

Hey everyone! It's cinco de mayo!! I'm not a big drinker, anymore, lol I stopped, retired, and became a grandma. Anyways, hope everyone is having a great and wonderful not to mention safe time! I'm currently on the train ride going back home. I was on vacation visiting my sister in Sacramento, for a few days, and I bought some lovely gelish polish! Then went to Fountain Valley/LA for the rest of the week, and bought my UV lamp there. If you don't know what that is, I suggest you look it up, and check out how amazing that nail product is! 

*I'm talking about the gelish polish now, if you're not interested then you can skip ahead, I won't hate you, if you are, continue reading.

If you're thinking about buying it, fair warning, it's pricey, but if you feel that you will be getting gel polish numerous times in your life then i suggest you invest in it. You're gonna need a primer, a base coat, a top coat, a color(s) of your choice and a 36 watt UV lamp. No, a 9 watt will not work no matter how long you put it under the lamp, trust me. I bought the ORLY brand and its very easy to do, but its also very important that each time you paint your nails, make sure its a thin coat, and you don't want to mess up, if you do clean up before you put it under the UV lamp, because trust me, it will be stuck there for a while lol, but not to worry you can peel off the excess nail polish the day after. First, file your nails down to the shape of how you want your nails to look like, then make sure you wipe down all the excess nails/powder, make sure its clean, very very important. Secondly, get your primer and apply it to the very tips of your nails, then let it dry. Next, get your base coat and apply it all over your nails, get your UV lamp out and have it under the lamp for 30 secs, your supposed to use a "dry brush" to wipe off the tackiness of the polish, but I just use a napkin to wipe it off, works the same way. After that, apply your color of choice! Do a first coat, then under UV lamp for 30 sec, and another coat then under the lamp again for another 30 sec. Depending on the color you choose, you might need more than 2 coats. After applying your color of choice, get your top coat, and evenly coat it on your nails, then under the UV lamp for 30 sec. Wipe it down with an alcoholic pad, or like me a napkin will suffice, and ta-dah! You got gelish nails!

Another way is to just watch the video on youtube lol, thats how I know how to do it, it also shows you to remove the gel polish.

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Alright, back to blog related things. Someone I follow on twitter (follow me @mollydarlinggg) asked if women had "back ups" and it dawned on me as how bad that sounded. I think I'm guilty of this, but I didn't consider it as "back ups" but just broadening my horizons? I dont know, dont judge me! Anyways, for me it was dealing with common knowledge, like why would someone want to stay with another when their partner had no dreams/goals/future, so I know it's bad but its nice to keep back ups? Is that even considered cheating? I realized it all comes down to females scared of being alone. FOREVER ALONE! HA! No, but I think women who actually do that are scared to be single, and it's quite understandable sut, being single isnt the end of the world! People have different opinions on it, some have the best of times, and others the worst. My personal opinion, it doesnt matter to me. I am in no rush to be in one. Been single for a year, and obviously if I wanted to be in one, I would be, but I feel like im not ready, and I got other things that matter much more to me than trying to find someone to be with for a short amount of time, because that's what I think it is. People who rush in to relationships only stay together for so long, and it baffles me on how OBLIVIOUS people are to that concept! If it didn't work the first time, second time, third time, im POSITIVE it won't work any other time. I'm not being bitter, just realistic, and some people, cant face reality when theyre to busy fantasizing they're "future" with their Mr./Ms Right Now's. Be a friend, and let your friend know, so they'll let their friends know, and then their friends know, and maybe, just maybe everyone wouldnt be stuck in such a rut! 

Back to back ups! Know that every back up you have it will give you a harder time to find a real relationship to be in, if that's what you're looking for, because you will forever have back ups, and when you find a good one, it'll slip right passed you either by karma, or by your stupid games.

I used to do it, not anymore, because its hurtful not only to you, but to others, andddd ever heard of karma? You can THINK you're playin your partner, but truth of the matter, you can be just another chess piece to her game as well. 

I can't tell you what to do, what to say, who to date, what to look out for, but I can advise you on all of those things, and when the results came out as to what I said, and you're gonna be like "How come no one told me?" my blog will still be here, and I wont say it but in the back of your mind you're gonna hear me say "I told you so" 

But if I was wrong, then I'm wrong, I never have admitted that I know everything, and I wasn't telling anyone what to do. And like everyone says, don't take relationship advices from a single person, because thats what i am. A single girl.

Train rides almost over, and im getting a little train-sick, so I guess this is it for now. I have another topic that I need to touch base on, but that'll be for another time. Until then readers! Happy reading.

BTW I'm thinking about vlogging! I feel like i'd be able to do that a lot more because it's always easier to speak your mind and put some aggression behind it than typing it out with a bunch of letters as to what im trying to say lol, we'll see(:

"those who are faithless know the pleasures of love. it is those who are faithful who know love's tragedies"

I have no clue who said that, but I absolutely love it.

Q&A Male perspective

I lost my laptop don't judge me, its a netbook. Then my bro found it and now I don't even know where the charger is so it's dead lol. You figure for someone being lowkey OCD I'd know where everything is at, buutttttt I don't.

Anyways I've been catching up on a lot of random tv shows thanks to netflix and I've been watching Ugly Betty lol and at first I was refusing to watch it but it's actually pretty funny. Later on the season Betty meets this guy who constantly "forgets" his wallet at home so she'd have to pay for dinner, which wasn't a problem to her, but it was for her older sister Hilda. She didn't like the idea that Betty had paid for dinner/drinks more than once. Hilda believes that guys should have to pay for everything. Betty on the other hand believes that guys shouldn't have to pay for everything all the time because she feels its okay to do so.

So it got me thinking, is it okay to let guys pay for everything? Even when the girls have a job?

There was no better way of asking this than sending a massive text to all the guys in my phone lol and to be completely honest these guys surprised me with their answers. Of course, I'm choosing to let all the guys remain anonymous.

I figured their answers were all going to be like "no no its my job and my place to take care of a girl and blah blah blah" well some of them were but that's besides the point. Most guys said it was ok for girls to pay for stuff sometimes, it was a way of showing affection towards them. Not all girls are affectionate and that could be a way of doing so.

QUESTION: "Are you ok with girls paying for anything?? Why or why not?"

"Ummmm... At first no... Because im sure it was the guy that asked out the girl in the first place. But once u become exclusive i think its ok for the two people to go back and forth when it comes to paying.. I think its a nice gesture for a woman to pay from time to time. Its her way of saying 'Let me treat you babe.' "

"lol of course, I find a little miss 'i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t' girls hot"

"For the most part I like paying but if she offers to pay then I'll let her pay that shows me she has her own money and don't rely on a guy to pay for things all the time"

Then the next.

"Does it make you feel in any way emasculated?"

"well it should and does, but I disregard it."

"I feel liek if a woman pays it'll make me feel less of a man at the same time, because men are to take care of the women and children I feel like its my duty."

"um yes kinda. I feel like I'm not doing my part. To me it shows that if you can't pick up the bill how are you supposed to take care of her let al one a family."

And the next.

"If she made more money than you would your answer change and would you feel intimidated by her success or be happy for her"

"GF I wouldn't care a crap. Wife I'd be excited as hell for her if the transition occurred after we were married. If shes my girlfriend for a bit then got the big bucks I would feel more like I needed to match her income than be happy for her"

"The last 3 women ive dated make a lot more money than me. But I treated them all the same. A woman wants to feel taken care of. She wants to feel special and catered to.. So until you become exclusive you should treat her that way. Once you get together you kinda become a team. And if she made more money I would be proud to have a successful woman on my team. But no matter how much she makes I will always be the man :). "

I stopped with the questions after that one. It ended up with all the same answers, that they'd be happy for their success and not intimidated at all.

I will not be mentioning any names of any exes I've dated. I've had some that had paid for everything for me because they felt it was their role to do so, and to be quite honest, it felt nice being taken care of. My parents always said to me as growing up you want to be with someone who will not only take care of themselves but you as well. It's a good thing but it's not mandatory.

I've gone out with guys that I have had to pay for almost everything. Down to their clothes, food, drinks, and entertainment. Now I had absolutely no problem doing so, but when it happens for a while I like to think the guy is not only using me, but stringing me along to nothing.

Then I've had relationships to where the guy still paid for everything knowing I made more money. Was it their pride getting in the way? I remember them spending their last dollar on something I wanted and I felt horrible, but it was an excellent way of showing they would do anything for me.

It all comes down to as what can you pay for to not cross the line of being used and to being appreciated. From taking care of someone to doing too much.

It's all a fair game. I fully believe in girls and guys going in half/half, that's IF there's jobs in the picture. If the girl doesn't have a job I feel its obviously the guys part to take care of the girl, he was well knowing that the girl didn't have a job so when he asked her out, he knew what was going to happen.

Now if there was a situation where they both didn't have a job, there would be an issue as to who would pay for anything. It all goes down to who invited who. You can't invite someone to dinner and/or a movie and expect the other to pay for it, simply because that's not having any kind of manners.

It's 2012 and things have obviously been changing there are even stay-at-home dads, and women being the bread winner.

So back to Ugly Betty, it just turns out her new man was a billionaire who always forgets his wallet lol.

Question to the girls now,

How many of you girls can honestly say you've spoiled your man?

"I had to make them changes I hope you understood. You see for every bad I did, I done a ton of good."